Making decisions in a group can be challenging. A compassionate, skilled facilitator makes all the difference, holding a safe space in which participants feel emboldened to speak their truth; in which active listening builds community and connection while embracing diverse views; and from which emerge satisfying solutions that integrate the varied needs of all participants. Over 25 years as a consulting cohousing architect, I have applied these skills to participatory design workshops, through which future neighbors work together to define their visions and design their communities. These same facilitation principles are valuable to any group (non-profit, business, municipal, etc.) engaging in decision-making or seeking greater understanding between members.